Our brains are incredibly powerful tools and yet for most of us we put little effort into the discipline needed to manage that tool to get the best outcome for ourselves and of course for others.
In the work that we do as coaches and facilitators I have become acutely aware of the language that clients and participants use about themselves and others where they are apparently oblivious to the impact of those words and how they demonstrate the subconscious mindset.
It’s just small things that you become aware of where a client may be self-denigrating; “I’ll never be any good at that”, “I tried that and it didn’t work”, “I can’t do public speaking”, “No-one will listen to me even if I did”, “he’s always going to beat me at that”, “why would anyone pay attention to me when she’s got it all?”.
As you’d know, mental creation always precedes physical creation so who you are in your head is who you eventually become.
So, these statements are the quiet assassins. The thoughts in our heads that diminish our drive, the limiting beliefs that shape our world, the toxic internal commentary that we use to justify staying in the comfort zone of a monochromatic life.
To me, in hearing this it highlights a couple of things; one is the fear that people have of pushing themselves beyond their perceived limitation sometimes for fear of failure and sometimes for fear of success; and the other is the fear they have that others will see them being different and criticise their endeavour.
Marianne Williamson’s quote resonates for me and as woman committed to purpose: “There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. As we are liberated from our fear, our presence automatically liberates others”.
We don’t know our capability given that we live inside the framework of our perception. To succeed we build on failure, frustration and catastrophic experiences. The more we try to avoid these things the more we diminish our opportunity to shine.
Again, if you’ve ever heard the incredibly compelling Marianne Williamson speak then just mull over more of her words here: “We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. You playing small does not serve the world.”